I have two girls, ages 5 and 4. For the most part they get along really well. However, there are occasions when they are really mean to each other. As you can imagine it breaks my heart. But let me tell you a story that gives us mothers hope.
I have a twin sister.
I know she is beautiful right? Well, when we were younger I adored her, as evident by the following image.
I was always the one giving kisses and wanting to hold hands. I also wanted to do the typical twin thing and always dress alike. She didn't care for this idea. When we started kindergarten I would wait till she was waiting at the bus stop,which was our driveway, and change into what she was wearing. If I didn't time this perfectly, she was back in the house changing once she got a glimpse of the matching outfits. Anyway, on with the story. As we grew up something strange happened. We seemed to grow apart and fought about anything and everything. I blame myself for I was a very selfish and self-centered teenager.Well now we are grown and here is where the hope resides. I now adore my twin. She's what I want to be someday. I just love the person she has become. I so respect the fact that she is great at her job, is aware of and takes care of her own physical needs (i.e. elliptical machine pro), and has an amazing relationship with her daughter, Chandler. In fact, I hope my daughters still love and respect me as much as Chandler loves and respects her mom when they reach their teenage years. She has great balance in her life.
So all you moms have no fear. It may be discouraging when your kids fight and you may think they'll never be best friends but my twin and I are living proof that those who don't get along in their youth can become the best of friends. I love you Carla.
3 comments:
Isn't it funny how different our perceptions are? Here I am thinking of all of the wrong paths I've taken and how I could have done things so differently. It is you that I admire. I'm in awe of the fact that my twin sister is a doctor for goodness sake. All the goals you have accomplished and all of the things you have to be proud of. Even though you've made me cry twice in one day you'll never know what your kind words mean to me. Just know that the admiration you have for me doesn't compare to what I have for you. I'm lucky to have someone in my life that's been there from the very beginning (before actually and I have the ear to prove it.) The past year has taught me that nothing is more important than family and I'm definitely thankful that you are a part of mine.
As I read this, sitting next to my sister, whom when we were teenagers hardly spoke to each other, we didn't care for each other AT ALL! I am talking fist fights and making me cry at school, etc. But now I love her more than I can imagine, as well as my other siblings (hello, Rachel! had many a bruise from yours truly) how time heals all wounds. By the way, you are both very beautiful.
I tell my kids, to be nice to each other, because they're going to end up each other's best friends! You're awesome examples of that!
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